Choosing a first couples toy: wearable vibrators, remote and app control, and how to raise it without it landing badly. Advice from an Adelaide shop.
The hardest part of buying a couples toy is usually the conversation, not the toy. So here is both.
Raising it
Frame it as something to add rather than something to fix. “I saw this and thought it looked fun” lands very differently to “I think we need help”. Choose it together if you can, which also means neither person is presented with a decision already made.
Plenty of couples come into the shop together for exactly this reason. Nobody here will make it awkward.
Wearable vibrators
These are the ones couples come back for. A wearable design sits between you during sex, providing clitoral stimulation without needing a spare hand. The We-Vibe range is the best known for good reason.
Fit varies between bodies, so it is worth knowing that this is the category most likely to need a second try.
Remote and app control
A remote hands control to your partner, which changes the dynamic in a way people either love or find gimmicky. App control extends that to any distance, which is the genuine appeal for long-distance or fly-in-fly-out couples.
App-controlled toys need charging and a phone in the room. Worth knowing before you rely on one.
Cock rings
An inexpensive and effective starting point. A vibrating ring provides stimulation for both partners during sex. See our cock ring guide for fitting and the twenty-minute rule.
Other easy starting points
- A bullet vibe. Small, cheap, no pressure, useful in almost any position.
- A blindfold. Costs very little and changes the experience completely.
- Massage oil or a good lubricant. The least intimidating thing on this page.
- A bedroom card game. Genuinely useful for couples who find the conversation hard.
One thing to agree upfront
A toy is an addition, not a replacement. If either of you is worried about that, say so before you buy, because that worry does not go away on its own and it will colour the whole experience.
Any questions?
If you are still not sure, ask us. Call the shop or come in to 177 Unley Road, Unley, open seven days from 10am until midnight. We give straight, shame-free advice and we will happily talk you out of something that is wrong for you.
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